If you live with a mom, sibling, and grandparent, and ALL DAY you seem to be arguing, is it better to move out and take a break? Will the temporary distance heal the problems, or only cause more issues? I believe that its not something I would want to seek a family counselor or a therapist, but I want to hear your opinion on what you would do or what you think is right.
My mom and I use to fight all the time when i lived with her. After I moved out when i was 18 we got along great. We are actually best friends and can talk about anything. Living together just got on each others nerves because we were very alike. I would say give it a break…..if you want to, just tell them that you are moving out so that everyone can have their own space back and will get along a little better.
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My mom and I use to fight all the time when i lived with her. After I moved out when i was 18 we got along great. We are actually best friends and can talk about anything. Living together just got on each others nerves because we were very alike. I would say give it a break…..if you want to, just tell them that you are moving out so that everyone can have their own space back and will get along a little better.
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The old addage says "absence makes the heart grow fonder". I personally have found this to be true on more than one occasion. However if it is a spouse absence does not make the heart grow fonder but resentful….becareful in whatever decision you make it must come from your heart.
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Firstly, you teach people how to treat you, what is acceptable and what is not. However you also have to remember that you cannot control other’s reactions and behaviors. Since you can only do that with yourself, and you keep in mind that if something won’t matter in a week, a month or a year, maybe its best not to argue about it. Depending on the types of issues your having, it might be good to take a break and evaluate what is really important to you about the relationships, then go back with a fresh perspective. Pick your battles carefully, sometimes what seems to be an emotionally charged mountain, can actually be a difference of opinion and that’s ok. You can set out with the agreement that its ok to disagree and leave it at that. Good Luck!
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Why not sit together and talk like mature people? If you or your sibling is a teenager, it might be "that" phase when you think everyone else is wrong and you are right. When there are more than 2 people living in a house, arguments are bound to happen.
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Depends if you can afford to move out and how old you are. Living at home dont forget ,does have its advantages – you most likely have your meals cooked and laundry done. On the other hand perhaps you could escape now and then to your room and have a little time and space to yourself.
If you love your family and they love you – try to talk to them and work things out – Wish you luck -
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Depends how old you are. My step-daughter has the same prob. She knows she’s more than welcome here any time. Only trouble is, her brother would instantly follow!LOL!
Could you stay at your Dad’s for a bit for a break?
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my sister and I were always fighting, even after she left for college, every time she was home for longer then a day, we fought.
Now that we don’t see each other year summer or Holiday, we have a fairly good relationship.
I’d move out if you’re old enough.
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Sometimes the distance of moving out does help the fighting. Sometimes it doesn’t.
Trying to work things out is a great idea, but everyone has to want it. Good luck
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well i found out that me and my mom get along better when i dont live with her…now that i moved out we have a strong bond and i go visit her every weekend…=]]]]
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see your counselor.
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I moved out of state and it worked out beautifully
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