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Hello
My wife and I have been through a stressful period of 8 months and I had an emotional breakdown due to the stress and my wife started thinking she was being followed, phones bugged and an reaction to sharp objects needing to be put away…also seemed to show a distinct lack of trust to me (something I never been known for in our relationship). I see my doctors therapist and asked my wife’s family for help and support.
She has now gone away to stay with family, she took our 7 year old away and have given email letters of complete love for her and support my wife to be there her though thick and thin…her family seem to blame me and we have a small flat to live in which didn’t help.
Bottom line is her Dad says she definitly will not return to this flat to live and I have informed my wife and her family that I will accept if she needs a new flat to live (hopefully together) and wish there to be no barrier in healing.
I am being kept at a distance at times by her and have been giving my undying love to be there by emails, I am so upset not knowing if my wife is lost to this and my child will be gone (or) with treatment with her therapist and the drugs she will need -all might be workable.
Have not been in this situation before and feel torn apart and wish I could dissappear from this world, I love my wife very much and my child is my whole world…..I now need to go off for 3 weeks (my father is dying from prostate and will be my last visit), I don’t know how I should control myself in my mind while this is happening.
What is to be expected from something like this, have I lost my wife (or) will she come to see that I am here for her?
Help please if anyone knows about these types of situations.
daryl
Hi Daryl,
My heart went out to you when I read this. I’m afraid it sounds like you’ve both been through a really awful, turbulent few months. Although you’ve both done the right thing (that is, to focus on healing), it sounds like you’ve neglected each other. Women think in different ways to men and, to be brutally honest, an email is a cold and distant thing to recieve when what you really want/need is for that person to be there in person to give you practical support, or even just a hug when you need it.
At the moment you have to see your dad. Keep in touch with your wife in any way you can (btw, this doesn’t mean harass her!!!) Just keep the lines of communication open. When you’re back in town you must find a way to be with your wife. It is not for her Dad to have any say in her relationship at all. Your marriage is your business. Tell her Dad (however well meaning he may be) to keep out. He isn’t helping the situation, he is actually enabling her to avoid dealing with her own problems by providing a human barrier between them and her!!
Your wife needs to grow up and face the real world, and you need to be strong and make sure that you have some input into the upbringing of your child.
Don’t just fade into the background. Tell your wife you will move, okay, but only once she has returned to the family home. Otherwise there’s a risk you’ll move and then she’ll find another excuse to avoid you!!
I wish you all the best, and I really truly hope that things work out for the sake of your child.
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I was born in ukraine, just few years after explosion in chernobyl, I was born like 700 km from that place. But as you know radiation spread everywhere. So far I haven’t had any like major ilness, can it appear later? I also noticed my older cousin is 20 and she’s getting loads of like ilnesses , which only old ppl would have, my younger cousin which is 5 years, is getting ill a lot. Like temperature , and stuff like that very very often. Every month I would say. Is that somehow revelant? I also noticed I am getting ill very very rarely, like last time I was ill it was almost a year ago. in all my life time I was sick for total about 2 months. relevant or coincidence? I also sense smell faster than anyone else in class by about 2 minutes. Even though I am in other end of class and even though 17/24 hours a day I sit at pc, for already 7 years, I still have totally perfect eye sight, like I can read letters of half a centimeter at distance of like 4 metres but thats probably coincidence as well. And all wounds I get all healed very very quick, I had broken arm once, it healed in like 5 days.
Hi there! Guess what? I’m Ukrainian, too!! I’m a sickly girl, always getting colds and fevers, and you name it. I also have asthma, but it’s hereditary, from my mom. Well, it all may be just coincidence, depending on if you live far away from the epicenter of the radiation. I don’t think it’s from radiation, though. It could just be you. I mean, I myself was born in Lviv, so that’s pretty far from Chornobyl. And also, if you have been living there for a short time, then you’d have only a very slight chance of bein irradiated. I lived in Ukraine until I was 8, and that’s when we moved here.
1st scenario:
He’s in Bangkok & i’m in the Philippines. He had visited 5 times. I love him. I still very much love him. I do love him. Then he admitted sleeping with someone in Bangkok but i forgave him & we went on with our relationship. I really love him. After that admission, I started feeling afraid of losing him, started having insecurities & doubts that we would have online fights. His admission about that sleeping with that girl really affected me. He’s in Bangkok right now & I did a mistake of sending an email pretending it’s not me just to get his attention online because i’m afraid that he might be visiting the girl & sleeping with her again. He found out that the email came from me. I really do love him. I really do. What a stupid thing I did! Because of that email, I haven’t heard from him since. He said he loves me but he lost the trust and belief. Can I still win him back? I really do love him. I am faithful. I just stupidly did that. We’re apart. I don’t know how to prove online that i do really love him. I really do. Please enlighten me…
2nd scenario:
I’ve expressed my wholehearted sorry.
3rd scenario:
I’m sorry guys but I am really emotional right now, confuse and I need help with enlightening me again with what he just said. I want to know if him and I still have a chance to be together again. I am holding on. I love him. He said:
"I dont want to forget you, we connected. That makes all that has passed all the more hard to digest. I have your photo here on my desktop. The one I took in Apo, with your beautiful smile. I look at it every now and then. I suggest time as a medicine after I know the answers to my questions. I want to heal too. We shouldn’t contact each other at
least not for the remaining months of the year. Maybe, someday, we see each other".
I am very much distracted right now and I cannot even work. I feel like the world has stopped. I need someone to answer this question, please. Thanks very much, guys.
rebuild? if you forgive him and he does not forgive you then there is no way that you can make the bridge to meet at the center. as they say it take two to tango! you are just being blind girl, there are so many man around you and a lot of fish in the sea. give someone else a try so he will know what he had lost!
I’ve been going out with a guy from Italy for over a year, we had a fantastic time, alternating months visiting each other. Summer was the most immense, he came for most of July to England, we showed him around, and his family reciprocated the favor for me in Italy during August. I felt rushed to book tickets straight after, feeling obliged due to ‘free’ ryanair tickets (well, baggae and insurance needed paying for) and the prospect of it being in the future. I realise that was my hasty mistake.
I was meant to go on wednesday to italy, but it only just fully reached my conscious level yesterday that i wanted to break up with him. Reasons being 1. I don’t want to keep waiting for the storm to pass, i want to go out and dance in the rain 2. I’m young and he’s so pushy and obsessive, I just want to feel more free, less trapped 3. His obsessiveness has actually pushed my feelings away.
Mean as it may be, I felt it would be more cruel to fly to italy at his birthday for a week with the intent of breaking up with him, so did it on msn. I know its mean but it would be more sick to do so. Financially, he’s booked a flight here at christmas and i’ve turned him down. When he said about the money he’d wasted i said i could refund it and he said don’t speak rubbish, i don’t need your arms.
Initially he acted upset and said stuff like "thanks for the best year of my life" and "it’s been a nice dream" and other equally sad statements such as "say i love you to your parents, i won’t see them again"
Later though he got really angry and started saying "you’re a coward, hipocrite, thanks for giving me a really really happy birthday present" "i don’t believe you" "i realise italians and english say the same rubbish" "i don’t believe you" "in all politeness liz F**K OFF"
I started the break up by saying i couldn’t come next week because 1. my college isn’t allowing me time off and 2. my grandads cancer is coming on faster than expected. Both true. He asked if he shouldn’t come at christmas himself, i said probably not it will be a very sad christmas. He himself through paranoia guided me toward "are you saying you want a pause?" then pushed me to saying lets end it now as he said "please, i need time to heal a wound, if it’s not a pause and i have nothing to wait for please tell me now"
This was on msn. It was later he called me a coward for ending it on msn. Surely i had no other choice, we don’t ring each other, we talk via msn or face to face when we fly to see each other.
What I feel from this is… I’ve lost a best friend. He was the only person who fully respected and was interested in everything i had to say. I’ve tried to grow to love him, but only in the friendly way has this been allowed. I’m not sure what to do with myself. I have many friends over there, and i’m sure, seeing how sad he is, they will all rush to his side and hate me.
It is already clear his sister feels this way, her facebook status was "f you… f you… f you very very much" and his best friend liked this. I hate to cause pain, but at the same time i know more pain can be caused in the long run from living a lie. I was, and still am, in a no-win situation.
What can I do?
I feel a void.
talk to him about it
hes really hurt
talk to him every day
a little more and more each day
and eventually youll have a beautiful friendship
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This all happend around 5 hours ago. Me & boyfriend are having a huge rough patch. Actually may i say "EX" now. And lately hes been doing weed. I absoultey hate that it has sucha big impact on my life from the past. I’ve given him 3 chances and you can only give so many until your bieng walk all over right ? He’s my first love and i know that. it’s so hard saying good bye. I called him and ended it. He didnt even seem like he gave a damn. He admitted he did it, and was like i wouldnt blame you if you broke up with me. wouldnt that make you feel he was hoping for it ? I never took any guy seriously up till him. I cried for the 1st time over a guy i let the soul cleanse. Keep in mind we’ve been distanced for almost 41 days. Im half way around the world on vacation which just makes matter harders and im cming hom in 6 days. It’ll be so hard facing him. Hes making such a big effort of keeping things. I just feel in the end i’ll regret what i did so badly and is so mad at him theres really no effection left to spare. I really dont know what to do when i get home. I truely do want him back but i just cant. It’s just so hard and i know plenty know how it feels. He’s the boy who always puts ont he act of " bieng okay" i’ll never know his true effection unless were close like we were. Right now I have him and hes my everything or i dont have him at all and hes nothing. I just cant be " bestfriends " with him thats just a lead to pain. By the way He was all romantic and everything seemed fine for 3 weeks but bam this happens i feel ive been lead on.
What should i do with this sitaution ?
Answers please !
Try to understand why you are upset. Understand that everything happens for a reason. What exact moment did you feel upset?
Don’t think about whose fault it was- at one time or another, everyone makes mistakes. Don’t worry about it.
Do something quiet and relaxing to help you feel better. Maybe you want to take a hot bath, or meditate, or read a book. That’s fine.
In an hour, or two, or whenever you’re ready, start thinking about whether you are ready to accept the other person’s feelings.
If you are, go ahead, call them, write them a note, or whatever you need to do. Maybe you want to talk face-to-face. They may not be willing to see you, or talk to you, but you should make an effort. Even if they turn you down, you feel better that you tried, and maybe they’ll recognize that you made an effort.
Move on. When you feel you are ready to open your heart again, find someone else to be with.
Smile! Seriously, smiling makes you feel better and if you gather a few good, close friends and have a laugh together, you’ll remember how good life was without him/her and that you’re okay really.
Remember the 2-year rule. It takes 2 years to learn a new job, to get accustomed to a new town and to completely heal a broken heart. If you follow these steps without remembering this first, you will be overly optimistic and disappointed. Real results are obtainable when realistic expectations are set.
The moment he, she or it hammers the last drop of blood from your still loving/beating heart, stop arguing with that person or the fantasy voice of that person about how they are wrong and you are right. Everytime you catch yourself arguing your point in your own mind, just say stop and focus on something completely different.
Gather all the memories of that person and put them in a box, with the exception of 1 picture, one item of food, one item of smell association and one related music item. Then on the next occasion of significance (a Saturday night for example…when you would have normally been with your heartbreaker…put on the music, douse yourself in the scent of memory, eat the special food, turn the lights down low, and cry and rant and wail. You must be at the top of your voice and able to move around the room. Note it is best to do this when you are alone — see "how to act crazy" post.
Put away the memories. When you regain composure from step 2, put the remainder candy wrappers, music, item of smell memory in the box with the rest of the memory debris. Keep out the picture.
Every day for a week when you walk by the picture of your former beloved, say out loud, "Forget you and the horse you rode in on," or some other suitable invective and then catch yourself arguing with the memory and say stop. Say it out loud, be your filthy angriest self in these mutterings.
Every day for the second week when you walk by the picture of your former beloved, say out loud. I miss you, and then catch yourself arguing with the memory and say stop.
Every day for the third week when you walk by the picture of your former soul mate, say I am sorry out loud to the picture.
Replace the picture of your former dearest, with a picture of yourself. But keep the picture in the same place, just put a picture of you on top of it. Then every day when you walk by the picture, say I am sorry out loud to the picture. Yes you are apologizing to yourself for having gone that far around the bend for someone who didn’t know your value and worth, and who doesn’t matter anymore.
Let time heal. It has been one month now. Go to someplace where you used to go or be near your so-called one-true love and go there with a friend (not alone, this is important). Mention 1 time and 1 time only how you used to drink at this very bar or your used to fend off Mr or Mrs. Wonderful’s advances in that same back store room, mention it once only and then have a drink or file some papers, or do what ever you used to do, only now with a different person, preferably a comfortable friend who can smile knowingly then move the conversation forward.
Practice being honest to yourself every day.
Read a book every night before you go to sleep. You might never have read books, but nothing moves you outside of yourself better than a book, not a movie, not a music video, read a book. It will help you heal.
Start dating other people again and not be a raving lunatic after about 2 months.
Speak to people. Speak to friends. Try out forums online. Knowing that thousands like you are going through the same pain helps a lot.
[edit] TipsDo not go on any dates with the person from whom you are trying to heal. This is not productive and will not lead to healing. There is no more closure. There is only healing.
When trying to heal do not accept phone calls and exchange flirty emails with the former object of your desire. This is also not productive and will only prolong the healing process.
You are not healing from the broken heart your sweeti
